As a young, Midwest girl growing up in a small town, many ideas were placed into my head. Catholicism placed more, but I’ve gotten rid of most of those (Recovering Catholic, 17 years. “Hi, my name is Sola, and I…”)
Our first sexual experiences in this small town were so quiet. Even if you were on a gravel road at 3am, you still felt the undeniable urge to do everything quietly – even unzipping your Calvin’s. (Yes, I am aging myself. /shrug. Who thought I’d live to be this old?).
I’ve grown out of some of that. I’ve left most all of the “Good girls don’t do that…” in a waft of gravel dust. But there are a few things that I can’t seem to get over.
In my Midwest girl mind, giving head to a man is supposed to be a quiet affair. I mean, c’mon. You don’t really want your parents to hear you out in the yard; for the people in the house you parked in front of to suddenly turn down the TV and say “What’s that slurping sound?”; for your friend in the front seat, making out with her boyfriend, to hear you slobbering all over yours in the backseat. Shhhh…be vewy, vewy qwiet. We’re trying to be invisible here…
My last two exes were not big on having their cocks sucked. The first one, M, actually seemed to resist it, and in 4 years, he only came in my mouth once. The last one, C, was happy to trade “no oral for no oral” as he didn’t enjoy eating pussy, and frankly, I can live without being eaten. That was all okay with me, sometimes. I do enjoy having a cock in my mouth, but it’s not a “make or break” deal with me.
I’ve read a ton of profiles on Alt. And a ton of blogs. And one common theme amongst the gentlemen of the dom variety seems to be how they like to make a woman choke, slobber, slurp, gag, release tears (running mascara is a very popular theme) with cocksucking.
Don’t misunderstand. I’m far from naïve. And I’m a quiet student of all things sexual. I don’t have a problem with this. But my nature is to be inquisitive, and I’m undeniably curious here.
So gentlemen, start your engines. And tell me what the fuss is about with the choking and the slobbering and the slurping and the…well, you get the picture. Ladies, too, if you have some insight to share.
Friday, April 14, 2006
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2 comments:
Sola,
Thanks for hooking me up with your blog. It is a very intimate look at your being. I am enjoying getting to know you through your writing and all that makes you "you". You are answering questions I have had about the whole BDSM thing. It is something I have not personally been exposed to, but social psychology is one of my interests.
I tend to view sex and the practice of it as an eye to eye equal level thing. Just wondering what this is all about. Thanks
dave
I love cocksucking. And I definitely see it as being a submissive act for me. But if I had to think about the aspects that really "do it" for me, it'd be about the penetration, the sexual turn on, the intimacy, and the oral activity, not about slobber and slurping and crying.
I'm an oral person, by trade. I sucked my thumb for years, and I enjoy sucking fingers, toes, arms, earlobes, nipples, etc. Cock is one more. It feels good in my mouth. I feel like I can give the attention I want more nimbly with my tongue than I can with my hands.
Sucking a cock usually makes it hard. Hard from what -I'm- doing. That's a huge fetish for me: to see that something I am doing or being is directly responsible for turning all his focus to me and sex and our interaction.
Penetrating my mouth is not too different, from a mental standpoint, from penetrating my cunt. It slides in, needs enough lube and the right angle, and somewhere in my brain, the connection is made, and it gets me hot. I like it deep, I like it overwhelming me, I like it taking over my senses.
Dunno if that's what you were looking for, but those are just some thoughts. :)
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