Senses

The culmination of a wonderful sexual experience - the physical culmination - has such power. While the male orgasm produces much more of a tangible outcome so to speak … the female orgasm is no less powerful

Both male and female orgasms are multi-dimensional experiences, as far as the senses are concerned, whether you explore them all each time or not.

I mentioned recently that I love the smell of sex. If I can smell sex on my skin after leaving someone I’ve just been with, just that alone will keep the experience alive for me for a long time afterward. I’ve been known to stay wet for hours just from smelling a lover’s scent on my skin. That’s a very cool thing. I’m happy that I have that.

Seeing the face of someone who’s orgasming inside of you – seeing their eyes, their mouths open – such an aphrodisiac. Watching yourself get fucked in a mirror? Watching your lover cum on you, their orgasm spilling out across your skin? There’s so much to see during your time engaged with someone sexually – such a shame to waste that in the dark, don’t you think?

That orgasm that’s spilling out on you? Or on your cock or fingers if you’re a man? The feel of the skin changing, the wetness, the stickyness and softness, the viscosity of the fluid. The feel of teeth and nails against skin are hard – the feel of tongues and lips are soft. Sexuality is first and foremost about the sense of touch, isn’t it? The feel of your shirt as your lover slides it off? Their hair on your skin? Their breath against your cheek as they lean down to say something wicked?

And what about that something wicked? Words, for many of us, activate parts of our brain that would remain quiet without them during a good sound fucking. And the other noises, too. The whimpering, moaning, screaming, begging. The skin slapping against wet skin, sweat-soaked or otherwise. The clothes rustling. Things being knocked off nightstands in the heat of the moment. The occasional laughter. Sex is incredibly auditory, or at least it can be.

And then there is taste. *laugh What can we say about taste? The taste of cum, the taste of sweat, the taste of someone else’s mouth – can make you lightheaded and weak. Can make you amorous all over again. Can make you crazy with lust.

I feel bad for people who regard sex to be a one-dimensional act to simply have an orgasm and go on about life. There is so much breadth and depth to the simple act of fucking that people miss because they’re too concerned about time, about their hair getting messed up, and what other people would say. Foreplay, during play and after-play (which lives in your head for as long as you let it) are so much more important than having to brush out tangles or missing a TV show.

Let your five senses loose. Taste, feel, see, smell and hear the sex you’re having.

Yes, even if you’re just having it with yourself.

Just say yes.