Fantasies in Life

I have a habit of asking anyone that I'm considering having - or am having - a sexual interaction with what their fantasies are. I know that most people do that, but probably not as early on as I do. I am fascinated (ha!) by other people's fantasies.

I have my reasons for asking early, of course. But the biggest two are: I like to know what I'm getting into, and playing with other people's fantasies are fun. Y'all already know that I don't have a lot that's off limits, so someone has to be pretty deep into something that I consider offensive or immoral before I'll write them off altogether.

What's interesting to me, though, is that some people seem to have a lot of fantasies, while other people won't cop to having any at all. And even some of the most generic male fantasies (watching two women together; anal sex) aren't always forthcoming or even applicable. C, for example, had a very large bias against anything that screamed 'bisexual' ("Bisexuals piss me off. Make up your mind already."...C) and wouldn't even discuss it. (Course, later I found out he had a thing for trannies, so ....).

Some people say that only uncreative people don't have fantasies. I agree to a point but I also think that everyone has at least one fantasy. The question is -- are they willing to admit it out loud? That, to me, is the bigger factor.

Fear? Maybe. But maybe not for the reason you'd assume. Sometimes I think that people are afraid to share their fantasies because the reality won't live up the masturbatory material it's been for them for so long, they don't want to lose them.

I'll admit to that one for a couple of things, myself. And it's an important point. Because I'm one of those people who typically masturbate with pictures in my own head.

In a conversation last week, it was brought up that I didn't really need 'porn' because I was a very creative person and I could come up enough stuff on my own. And 99% of the time that's true. But I do watch a little porn or read a little porn occasionally, because sometimes I can't shut my mind off enough to let my creativity come through. But most of the time my fantasies are varied and vivid enough to keep my mind cooking for as long (or short!) as I feel like playing.

And okay, maybe there really are people that really don't have any of the typical fantasies, or maybe no fantasies at all. But I'm pretty sure that that's not the majority. And whether they want to admit to them or not, in the dark of their bedroom, it's the movie that runs through their heads while they make themselves cum.