Spank a smile onto your face

So, I got pointed to an article about a study down in Australia that says that men who are involved in a relationship in which spanking plays a part are happier generally as people.

You can read the article here. Spanking fetishes make men happier - study

I found it very interesting. *smirk

There was a quote in particular that struck a chord with me.

People who engaged in the habit were more likely to be sexually adventurous in other ways, like trying anal sex and phone sex, looking at internet pornography or using sex toys.
“These are people for whom sex is a hobby,” Dr Richters said.

So I asked myself. Is sex a hobby for me? Even when I’m not having any?

You know, maybe it is. I always said that if I went back to school, I’d major in psychology with an emphasis in sexual behavior. Sex and all things related to sex fascinate me. I enjoy adult stores, I enjoy lingerie shopping. I read a lot of erotica and I write a lot of erotica. I call myself a kinky little bitch because there’s very little in the sexual arena that’s off limits for me. (I’ll try almost anything twice, just in case I missed something the first time …). As long as it doesn’t offend me physically, morally, legally or intellectually, chances are I’ll give it a shot.

I can call it a hobby though, because it doesn’t run my life. I don’t have sex just for the sake of having sex (well, not for many years anyway :p). Thinking about sex or fantasizing doesn’t keep me from having a normal life. I work, I have family, I have friends. I don’t spend hours looking for a “fix”. And while it’d be nice to be having more than I am, it’s not something I’m willing to risk my job, my family, or my mental health for.

I think the article is onto something about people who engage in activities other than straight vanilla sex being happier and more comfortable with themselves. When at some point in my twenties I accepted the fact that I wasn’t going to be satisfied with generic sex for the rest of my life, something inside me broke, and I felt better about the deviant little thoughts that crept into my head more and more. It’s not easy to accept it. But once I did, it really was freeing, as cliché as that sounds.

I’ve never really considered my sexual interest a hobby before. I wonder if there’s a tax write off for that….