Where the Links Lead You...

While looking for links to include in this post, I followed a couple of links that led me to interesting places.




This DVD caught my eye firstly, and I've bookmarked a site to order it from. I love educational sex videos. Whether they are campy or truly educational, I find them immensely entertaining. And isn't that what porn is supposed to be? Entertaining? Okay, okay...it's supposed to be other things too... *smirk* But y'all know my interest in rough sex (more on that later), so this one really caught my eye. Hopefully it won't be disappointing.

But I also came across this site , and in particular this link . I'm pretty sure "rough" in the title of this particular article does not refer to rough the way I was searching for, but more as in "not streamlined". That's fine. It was an interesting read anyway.

This line, in particular, caught my attention: "So if our secret fantasies are not mental rehearsals for something that we actually plan to do, what on earth are they, and what are they saying about ourselves?"

Quite right, "Even Happier", quite right.

There are many fantasies I have had throughout the years that I have absolutely NO desire to act out outside of my dirty little mind. Some, I don't even share with other people -- not because I'm ashamed, but because I do not want to have them misconstrued -- as in "she wants to do WHAT?"

What happens in "Jill's Mind" should sometimes stay in "Jill's Mind".

Yours, too. It's all right. Really it is.

For some reason, men seem to have a harder time sharing their sexual fantasies (this is my experience...it's all I got ya know) with the women they are sexual with. I don't know if it's because they don't want to make us insecure, or if they, too, want to keep them as masturbatory fodder rather than take a chance on them actually being brought to fruition. Or maybe other reasons. But if you say to me "I have no sexual fantasies" have no doubt...I *am* going to call you a liar.

I can't speak for all women, but I can say that I do like to hear about the fantasies of my sex partner. Please feel free to preface it with "I don't want to do this in real life but the thought of ..... makes me cum so fast when I jack off..." and know that I will listen and take you seriously. If you don't say that...well, maybe I will see about trying to make it come true *smirk*

Back to the quote...yes, I did get off track. Did you miss me? lol

"what are they saying about ourselves"

They're saying we like sex. They're saying that maybe there are parts of us still unexplored that should be explored. They're saying that we are healthy of mind, because we want sex and we want to enjoy sex -- and in our minds, at least, we know that sex is not bad.

I honestly believe that unless you are fantasizing about sex with people or animals that cannot consent to having sex with you (which do fall under the "I don't really want to do this" section...right? RIGHT?) --- or unless you are fantasizing about causing harm to another person or yourself (not hurt. harm. hurt can be fun...), whatever lives in your mind is fine. I think we judge ourselves much more harshly than the normal every day red-blooded human being would judge us.

We honestly need to cut ourselves some slack.

I have scissors.....